Respect for Every Child

Every child has a right to be safe and supported at school. Race, faith, gender, socio-economic status, and who we love must never be a factor in how well we treat any child. As educators, we model and set the tone of acceptance of all individuals and groups in our schools. With recent news about transgender children using the bathrooms of their gender identity, many of us are asking how to establish a climate of respect in order to keep our schools safe for all children. One tool includes informed discussions about respect and justice for the diverse community of learners, which in turn, could develop into a service-learning project of advocacy for civil rights.

This article will use the framework of service-learning - investigate, plan, take action, reflect, and demonstrate - to advocate for gender inclusive classroom climate.  

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In the video above, a young transgender teen shares her story. This video shares her perspective and gives educators more insight. 

Investigate the Facts

Learning from a reputable, factual source is the best starting point for understanding what it means to be transgender and how to treat people who are transgender with respect. This article, "How to Support Transgender Students in the Classroom" is an excellent resource to understand the issues, as well as get access to excellent guidelines and teaching tools. We recommend you educate yourself first with facts and the nuances of the language surrounding transgender and gender identity.

If you have a transgender (or gender fluid) child in your school, be sure to ask them what pronoun they prefer. Ideally, the administration, teachers, and parents (along with the child) make a plan for the child that includes preferred pronouns, where to use the bathroom, and how they want to transition publically. This Human Rights Campaign guide for Schools in Transition helps schools with this process. Note: parents are not always accepting, and the school may be the only safe place for the child to express identity openly. Never "out" a child without their permission.

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  • gender identity: what gender one identifies with
  • gender presentation: how they present their gender
  • transition: changing cues to be in line with identity or expression (Note: transgendered is not a respectful term)
  • preferred pronouns: what pronouns to use for them (he/him; she/her; ze/hir; they/them)
  • gender fluid: a changing identity of gender
  • gender non-binary: not fully identifying with either gender
  • gender non-conforming: not conforming to male or female
  • transgender: male to female; female to male -- identifying as the opposite of the gender assigned at birth
  • gender assignment: the gender given to one at birth
  • sexual orientation: who you love or are attracted to
  • stealth: when a transitioned person presents as their identity and keeps their assigned gender secret (at school or work)

Identify Needs

What issues arise for the school community and for the students who are transgender? The media has created a lot of confusion about something that has been around forever but has been clouded by secrecy and shame. The children and youth in your classrooms who are questioning their gender identity, not presenting their gender openly, or have already transitioned are all vulnerable and observant to the language and behavior of their teachers and classmates. They often hear subtle language of unacceptance, misunderstanding, as well as expressions of outright cruelty. They, and all the children around them, will benefit from an inclusive and accepting environement. With staff and classroom discussions, identify the issues faced and start to explore what action can be taken by adults, students, and the community to ensure justice and safety in your school.

A transgender teen girl said in her blog, "It's a revolutionary thing to exist in a world where we're told not to." Imagine all the uncertainty, not about who they are but, about how society will accept and treat these vulnerable children. They often do not feel accepted or safe. Startlingly, the suicide rate in the transgender community is at 40 percent. 

Take Action

What can be done? It's time to embrace this real community need and, even if we don't have an openly transgender student in our classroom, take action to change attitudes and fear into love and respect for diversity. With modeling and school policy, we can make sure all children feel safe expressing their true selves. With advocacy and awareness, we can move away from the idea that gender is only male or female, and soon we as a people will see the whole spectrum of gender expression as beautiful.

  • High school students can produce social media and videos that teach about how our language subtly reinforces gender sterotypes and negatively affects people of all genders.
  • Schools can facilitate clubs that advocate a celebration of the wide spectrum of gender expression, including children not in the LGBTQ community.
  • Students can host an alt prom. 


Keep an open dialogue and listen to your students. They will all have questions and ideas. Encourage reflection through discussion, writing, games, and art. 


Provide an opportunity for students to share what they have learned, and the progress made to address the needs identified. This may be in the form of an art exhibit, an article, or a presentation for the school board. They may document policy changes at school. One measurement of success is that more LGBTQ students who have been silent will feel safe coming out or transitioning publically.

Remember, never "out" a child without their permission. Follow their lead and trust that they are following an inner voice that it takes courage to acknowledge. 

More Resources

Learning to Give lesson plans and resources:

Many Shades of Our World (K-2) Through art, students explore the importance of color and other physical characteristics to character. 

Justice and Kindness Play a Part (grades 6-8) Students explore ways to make a difference for justice and kindness.

Justice-Related Service-Learning Toolkit: Lesson plans and project ideas related to justice and civil rights.