Butter Battle Book
Do your children fight or lose their tempers over minor issues? This cautionary tale about conflict may be read on different levels for different ages. As parents, we must help our children form the skills they need to solve problems and respect differences in others. These are skills we need from childhood to adulthood. This book, through humor and exaggeration, helps children see how ridiculous it is to fight over minor issues. It also serves as a springboard for a discussion on respecting differences in others. Everyone finishes this book understanding the absurdity of fierce fighting over something as silly as which way they buttered their bread. Getting along and solving minor conflict seems pretty important in this light. Although written during the time of the nuclear arms race, the message of peace is universal and timeless.
ASK: Would you like to eat your bread with the butter on the bottom? If not, would it bother you if someone else did it? Would you start a fight with someone who did it?
SHOW: Look at the picture of the wall with the poster on it that says, “Yooks are not Zooks. Keep your butter side up!” This wall was built to separate people who butter their bread differently.
CONNECT: People are different in many ways, but they are also the same in many ways. Have you ever thought someone was strange because he or she was different? Is it okay for people to be VERY different from you? Think of someone in your community or school that you think is “weird.” Is it possible that this weird person is just different and that difference may make him or her interesting? Talk seriously about what would happen if you tried to get to know this person (think pros and cons).
ASK: Why do the Yooks and Zooks keep getting bigger and stronger weapons?
SHOW: Look at the picture with the “butter-up band.” Talk about what the cheerleaders of the Zooks might say or do on their side of the wall.
CONNECT: In disagreements that you know of, have you ever seen someone change their arguments or weapons to seem stronger? What happened then?
ASK: Can anyone win this battle? How? or Why not?
CONNECT: Think about a conflict that you have been involved in (or have read about). What can you do to get along sooner (or at least not get to the point where no one can win)? Is it possible to have a fight in which both sides win? How can you get into a “win-win situation?”
- World Events: For older children, relate this story to the wars and conflicts in the world today or in our history. Compare and contrast the events in this story with the events in the real situations.
- Resolving Conflict: Think of an ongoing conflict in your home, such as keeping your room clean, sharing a toy or game, or whose turn it is to walk the dog. Try to see the conflict from the perspective of Dr. Seuss. Think of clever slogans for your side of the argument, design a banner for your argument, and think of the extreme result of getting your way or not getting your way. Then after having fun with the idea, get together with all the people involved and talk about both sides of the issue. Try to solve the conflict in a way that seems fair to everyone.
- Art Connection: Dr. Seuss designs some very clever contraptions with very descriptive names. On paper, design your own clever contraption that will do a job around your house or perform any other task. Draw the contraption, give it a name and write about what it does.
- Respecting Diversity: Think about a person or group of people in your school or community who is/are “different” in some way. As a family, talk about how you can make a connection with that person or group. This may include making a new friend, helping at a soup kitchen, or helping with a project. Talk about the best way to approach the person in an open and friendly way without being condescending or forceful. Discuss what it means to show respect others.
- Caring for others: Sometimes problems arise because of misunderstandings. Think of caring statements you can make to stop a conflict before it grows. Make a list of statements, such as “I’m sorry” “I like the picture you drew. May I use the purple marker?” or “Shall we share the last bagel?”
- Factions: Look up “factions” in the dictionary. Anytime a group forms with similar opinions or characteristics and sets itself apart from a group without that unifying characteristic, factions are formed. Factions can be constructive and create positive change or they can be destructive or elitist. In the Butter Battle Book, the factions form over a trivial issue and escalate to the point of nearly destroying each other. Think of examples of factions (religious, political, local, sports-related, etc.) and talk about what they are doing and what changes they create(d).